As I’ve gotten older I realized I don’t want to “fit in”. I am who I am and you either like me or you don’t. I’m a good person, I try to help and be good to others. Do I always succeed? No. Do I always do the right thing? No. But do I try? Yes. Don’t get me wrong I like people and I want them to like me but I’m not 16 anymore. I’m not going to change and be someone I’m not just so I can have you as a friend. If my life were to end right now what could you say about me? Well, the most important thing you could say is “She was a good wife, mother and friend”. And if that was all you could say about me, it would be okay.
I have very strong opinions and I’m not afraid to tell you, if you ask. But I don’t shove my opinions down your throat and I don’t insult your beliefs. I feel everyone is entitled to their beliefs without fear of judgment. I do not choose my friends based on their color, religion, ethnicity, sex, choice of partner, amount of income or any other prejudice – I choose them based on whether or not they are a good person and hold certain values.
Certainly there are people I don’t like but instead of being friends with them and talking behind their backs, I just won’t be their friend. Life is too short (and sometimes too hard) to surround yourself with negative people. I want to surround myself with people I can trust and count on when I need them. I have very few “best” friends, in fact I have 3 of them. I know if I needed anything I could call any one of the three and they would be there for me. If any one of them needed me I to would do whatever I could to help. I have a lot of friends and acquaintances, they are all very important to me too. I value all of my friends, besides my family they are what make life interesting and worth living.
I guess what I’m trying to say is, choose your friends wisely. I would rather have a few well chosen friends than be that person who has 1000 Facebook friends. Really, I don’t know that many people! And if you are going to be a friend to someone, leave your judgments at the door. Be a good friend. Enjoy all that being a friend and having a friend can be. Be nice to people and the people who aren’t nice? Well, give them a wide berth…